The main character is scorned in love and carries this with him through life. He loved someone who hurt him and so connects love with bittersweet pain. But life, as it often does with time, shows us not what we think we want but what we need. What we truly deserve. And many times that happiness doesn't look like what we thought it would.
So for all those who have loved and lost and wonder if that is all you are worth, I give you this quote: "And it may be that love sometimes occurs without pain or misery."
So read The Shipping News. It will teach you about tying knots, cool shipping lingo, and maybe even letting go and finding happiness.
"I know it's wrong, hanging on too long."